Book Reviews: The Spirits Control Your Love Life by Frank Mares

Disclaimer: The Spirits Control Your Love Life by Frank Mares does not necessarily reflect the views or belief system of The Writer’s Scrap Bin, its authors, or its readers. Reincarnation and similar supernatural/spiritual concepts drive the book; many religious belief systems, including Christianity and Buddhism, are debated, praised, and questioned in many chapters. If you take offense to any of these topics and/or otherwise wish to avoid them, proceed with caution.

With the above disclaimer given, I must point out what I have said many times before: I am not religious but I am spiritual. I am open to the concept of spiritual and supernatural worlds, and I believe in something greater than what human beings can fully comprehend. Relevant to today’s review, I also believe in reincarnation. I have a hard time believing that we never return to this Earth once we die. If we’re gone entirely, what’s the point in existence in the first place? What about the law of conversation of energy? And if we go to an afterlife when we die, could we possibly have learned everything our souls are meant to learn after just one time around? These questions and more fuel Frank Mares’s curiosity and spiritual exploration in The Spirits Control Your Love Life.

Have you ever had déjà vu? Felt as though you’ve met a person or a situation before and yet have no recollection of it in this life? Do you have a peculiar obsession or phobia which cannot be fully explained by your upbringing? Frank Mares did. Through extensive meditation, research, and help from companions, Mares came to realize that these oddities were not just coincidences—in fact, there is no such thing as a coincidence. Instead, they are a result of his many past lives and the lessons which they impressed on him.

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The Spirits Control Your Love Life takes readers on Mares’s journey to discovering his past lives and recognizing the influence they have on his current life, from the behaviors he’s picked up to his failed relationships. He even comes to accept something which the former-atheist would have never considered in a million years: Frank Mares has psychic abilities. Mares uses his doomed-to-fail romances, trips into meditation and psychic readings, and his personal communication with spirits to argue that our lives are predetermined not by God/the Source/the Universe/whatever but by our own souls. In particular, he focuses on the thesis which he asserts in the introduction: we do not experience relationships for the purpose of romantic love but to help our souls grow.

Along the way, Mares meets many kindred spirits, some in his psychic classes and some in his day-to-day life, some who only share his interest in the spiritual/supernatural and some whom he’s encountered in past lives. He encounters multiple spirit guides—his own and one, unrelated to him, who was a Native American chief—and reunites with his dead father. His pursuit for spiritual understanding not only affects his life; his adventures also bring knowledge and spiritual guidance to his family and connects him to his colleagues in ways he couldn’t have imagined.

Mares has certainly given me a lot to think about in regards to spirituality and reincarnation. So much, in fact, that I haven’t stopped bending my mother’s ear about it since I started reading the book. That is when I know I have an engaging read on my hands, whether because I agree with it or because I have severe issues with it.

From a World War II German sergeant on the Eastern Front to a notorious German archbishop from the 1200s, Mares’s past lives prove a bit eclectic and, at times, hard to believe. Of course, reincarnation is such a taboo subject in Western culture, how can it not be hard for the reader to believe? The author never loses sight of the possibility and yet he continues on, asserting that he knows his experiences to be true because he lived them and extensive historic research seem to support his results.

That, perhaps, is what I enjoyed most about Mares’s writing. He approaches the subject with an appropriate amount serious thought and humor, allowing for the fact that he may sound crazy but making it clear that he is confident enough that he doesn’t care. He does his due diligence in rooting out all possible holes in his story, anything which could prove his experiences either a mistake, misinterpretation, or a sham. For the most part, he succeeds in convincing me that he has thought his experience through logically and has come to the most accurate conclusion for each theorized past life.

I must admit, even as a believer, I had a hard time believing his claims in the beginning of the novel. Honestly, I had serious doubts during the first couple chapters after the introduction. To me, he sounded like a cynical man trying to blame his failed relationships on some plan created by the universe rather than taking any real responsibility. His attitude seems so much more pessimistic than that of most who embrace reincarnation (myself included), so I decided to take everything he said with a grain of salt.

After those chapters, however, I became much more invested in what Mares had to say. Once he focuses less on the “romantic relationships” aspect of his soul’s plan, he becomes much more upbeat, realistic, and believable. His personal jaunts into meditation and the spiritual world, as well as historic research, add to his credibility. The later chapters also boast a writing style which is much more engaging than the first two chapters. Instead of cynical, his writing grows more optimistic and as though he truly believes what he is writing instead of just using it as a scapegoat. His writing radiates faith in what he’s discovered, and it’s contagious.

Unfortunately, the writing isn’t perfect. I noticed multiple proofreading errors during my reading. These errors may be a result of the fact that this book is actually a revised version of Mares’s earlier book, My Journey Down the Reincarnation Highway. Such a major revision/rewrite can cause more minor issues to fall through the cracks, and so this book needs one more crack at proofreading/editing before all the errors can be eliminated. Of course, these errors weren’t so frequent as to detract from the reading experience. Based on my other reviews, you know that I’m a perfectionist and spot these issues rather quickly, so most readers will pass them by.

Overall, Spirits Control Your Love Life is not for readers looking to affirm that everyone finds lasting romantic love or that our problems come from evil spirits or demons. If you want to read something which will give you a new view on reincarnation and why we go through what we go through, you’ve come to the right place. Mares is even kind enough to provide select chapters from the second book in the Fifty Shades of Psychic series and additional resources at the end of the book. I love being able to follow up on these topics.

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